The mother-daughter relationship is often scrutinized, publicized, and capitalized on. Whether from tell-all biographies, to humorous sit-coms, or private therapy sessions, this particular relationship dynamic gives some of the most emotion-activating memories. When female authors reflect and write about their relationships with their mothers, they have a tendency to taint their reflections with the opinions they have as an adult, reviewing the actions of their mother when they were young. These opinions set the tone of the story independently and in conjunction with the relationship itself and manifest in creative literary styles that weave an even more intricate story. Case in point, when reviewing the two literary works “I Stand Here …show more content…
This is made obvious by the subjective reflections of the now grown daughters as they write about their relationships with a distorted and one-sided view. “When individuals describe and evaluate an important relationship, this “accounting” of the relationship imparts meanings to the events, actions, and emotions of their past history, their present interactions, and their anticipated future together.” (Bojczyk, Lehan and McWey) This is how they identify their formative years and how they identify themselves as daughters to their mothers. Sufficed to say, despite the differences in perspective and experience, it is nearly impossible for the mother-daughter relationship to be clinically reviewed, they are heavily subjected to the author’s opinions and reactions to their mother.
In both stories, the future expectation of a daughter’s outcome affects the mother-daughter relationship as seen from both the mother and the daughter. Like the idea of self-fulfilling prophecy, if a mother treats her daughter as a frail being, an invalid, and keeps her daughter shut in, the effect on a healthy daughter will be to identify themselves as a fragile being who needs to be shut in since that’s all they’ve been told. Similarly, when a mother is exceptionally stern and opinionated about their daughter’s sexuality, based on the mother’s constant berating and calling the girl a whore, the girl may actually begin to identify herself
Although the daughter’s shame in her mother is evident, she is also prideful of her as well. The strong love that the mother and daughter share is pervasive throughout the story. The story is being told by the daughter after she is all grown up. The fact that Jones uses such vivid detail on the mother’s preparation for her daughters first day of school shows that the daughter loved her mom and all that she did for her. The daughter recalls that her mother spent a lot of time preparing her when she says, “My mother has uncharacteristically spent nearly an hour on my hair that morning, plaiting and replaiting so that now my scalp tingles.” (Jones) She also remembers that her “pale green slip and underwear are new, the underwear having come three to a plastic package with a little girl on the front who appears to be dancing.” (Jones) The daughter having remembered details like these illustrate that she has an immense love and takes pride
Elinor Robin writes about the mother-daughter bond, which can be considered a very important relationship. Like many could agree, the bond can be a struggle throughout the mother and daughter’s lives because of the different changes that each of them go through. As a woman, Robin researched the topic of mother-daughter bonding and realized that it can bring a woman unique insight and understanding (Robin).
Why is this event important to the author? This narrative follows a girl, growing into a woman, wishing to be an author. More than this, she wishes to be accepted by her father as an author. It follows her struggle to validate her education to her family, and overcome the stigma attached to her non-married lifestyle. In the end, she brought a story she had written to her ailing father, who was not only delighted to read it, but also wanted to share her work with the whole family.
Mother-daughter relationships vary from acting like sisters to not speaking to each other for a week. Yet when things become difficult, a mother and daughter can always rely on each other. The excerpts from Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom and Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, each explain personal experiences from their own mother-daughter relationships. Chua portrays a tense, caring tone throughout the excerpt, while Tan uses a more hostile, strict tone.
Mother-daughter relationships are shown in several ways throughout the world. This sort of relationship is supposed to portray a mother that is supportive of her child’s needs and passions. In the excerpts from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom by Amy Chua, and the novel, The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, two very differents relationships are presented. Although both excerpts share the same theme, Chua exhibits the tone of a caring mother and an irritated child, while, Amy Tan presents a mother that acts in a hostile manner, as her daughter is resentful towards her.
Another issue that is a huge part of O’Brien’s life is her own childhood. One fact that Peggy O’Brien illustrates in her assessment of O’Brien is how crucial her strained relationship with her father and complicated relationship with her mother. Peggy O’Brien believes that these childhood issues flow into her writing, but even O’Brien can agree with that. In a recent interview, O’Brien reflected back on her own life and the effects that her childhood had on her own life. In the interview, O’Brien spoke about how her mother objected to her pursuing a writing career. O’Brien stated that her mother often described her as a lonely child who was off in the fields. O’Brien takes this statement as a reflection on writers in general. “Most writers
In “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen, a relationship between mother and daughter reveals an untraditional relationship. This submissive relationship is built through deprivation and lack of affection. Throughout the short story, the mother reminisces her daughter’s childhood and cannot help but express guilt and regret. The mother may be blown away from her daughter’s beauty at a young age, but emotionally the mother was unable to support her daughter, causing struggles early on.
Almost every woman in North America has some form of a relationship with their daughter or mother, or both. However, these relationships can vary in amiability and affection. Whether due to similarities or differences in personality or circumstances in life, mothers and daughters can be close confidants or fierce foes. These familial relationships have been studied in part by Marianne Hirsch and Sharon M. Varallo in their essays on ‘the familial gaze’ and ‘the genre of family photographs,’ respectively. In this essay, I will be using the work previously done by Hirsch and Varallo to analyze two different mother-daughter relationships presented in the television show Gilmore Girls. The two relationships differ vastly in their outward appearance, however both relationships show underlying characteristics of both friendship and animosity. Overall, these two mother-daughter relationships demonstrate that the love between a mother and a daughter can be expressed in various ways.
Relationships between women are complicated and often emotional. Toni Morrison’s “Recitatif” and Tennessee Williams’ “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” are prime examples of literature that uses female solidarity as an important theme. Both deal with the relationship between mothers and daughters as well as relationship between peer women. The characters of these women are better understood when examining and analyzing these
Almost every woman in North America has some form of a relationship with their daughter and/or mother in their lifetime. However, these relation can vary in amiability and affection. Whether due to similarities or differences in personality or circumstances in life, mothers and daughters can be close confidants or fierce foes. These familial relationships have been studied in part by Marianne Hirsch and Sharon M. Varallo in their essays on “the familial gaze” and “the genre of family photographs,” respectively. In this essay, I will be using the work previously done by Hirsch and Varallo to analyze two different mother-daughter relationships presented in the television show Gilmore Girls. The two relationships differ vastly in their outward appearance, however both relationships show underlying characteristics of both friendship and animosity. Overall, these two mother-daughter relationships demonstrate that the love between a mother and a daughter can be expressed in various ways.
A relationship between a mother and her child is one of the most basic human interactions. Mother-daughter relationships can be complex but also filled with love. Mothers and daughters often seem farther away from eachother than they really are. In Amy Chua’s memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom the tone is tense and annoyed, while in Amy Tan’s novel The Joy Luck Club the tone is more hostile and resentful.
Institutional pressure can make people feel they are not up to their task when they do their best. The story “I Stand Here Ironing”, by Tillie Olsen, clearly develops this theme in many ways. First of all, all along the story, people, institutions, and the society in general are telling both Emily and her mother they are not good enough; the authorities and the social worker who take away Emily from her mother, Emily’s teachers who think she’s too slow, the people working at the convalescence home separating her from her friend. Moreover, the two main characters of that story feel incompetent or unfitting at many points of the story, usually because they don’t feel like they can do or be what is expected from them by society. Also, we understand
Mother-daughter relationships have rough patches, usually resulting from the mother exerting too much control over her daughter, even if it is out of love. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom by Amy Chua and The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan show two different perspectives of difficult mother-daughter relationships using tone. Both mothers aspired for their daughters to master a musical instrument, Chua out of love, even with a bothersome tone, and Tan’s mother for her personal pursuit of accomplishment, further exemplified with a demanding tone.
Nothing is more enduring than a mother- daughter relationship. This bond is specifically explored in the books, The Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother by Amy Chua and The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan. Authors of these books precisely show the complexity of this type of relationship. Chua and Tan show the reader how a mother and daughter can hurt one other but ultimately forgiveness finds its way through. The similarities in these books include the difficulty of communication between the mother and daughter and their sacrifices for love. The difference between these books is the mothers’ outlooks of the role women play in society.
The story of mother and daughter has indeed been written, although it is not often found on the surface but in the submerged depths of literary texts.” Why aren’t there any stories or tragedies of mother and children? The lack of a motherly figure in King Lear has been shown through the characters that lack the maturity and inability to grasp different types of personality traits.