Article Summary: 'Howyour Kid In Therapy'

Children must be allowed to grow and mature at their own natural pace. The old saying ‘kids must be kids’ is based on this basic need. Dr. Sigel of the Educational Testing Service in Princeton, New Jersey says “Denying, or at least not recognizing, the child’s active outreaching curiosity has negative consequences.” (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). When hothousing a child occurs parents run the risk of the children having what is known as achievement anxiety. This is when a child “come(s) to believe they are valued for what they memorize or produce or achieve”. (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). It appears that there is more evidence that supports the belief that ‘mother knows best’. Meaning, children belong in the care of their mothers, at home, where they can be allowed to play, daydream, and explore their environments.

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

What is the secret of perfect parenting ? Numerous parents may have different assumptions , of what precisely are the ideal goals to raise a child are. The Walls’s family had a unique perspective on “parenting”. Several readers may agree they had various flaws, by not giving their children the basic needs . Though despite all of their flaws , they did teach their kids valuable life lessons and self love.

Parents have a significant amount of influence on how their children will act, behave and do certain things in today's world which base off of their skills. Not all parents will acquire impressive parenting skills and be able to raise their children properly in society. In a memoir called The Glass Castle, by author Jeannette Walls shares her life story and how it may be perceived as normal. In Jeannette’s life, she along with her siblings are raised by a father and a mother who raises their family in a way that society would view as unusual or problematic. Parents are the adults who have certain ways and skills on how their children are raised in which could be considered a problem, society, on the other hand, has certain views but isn’t necessarily the problem.

I'd had a rocky beginning as a single parent. My oldest child had certainly felt the brunt of my first divorce as well as my short-lived second marriage. I'd never had any trouble with my children; yet, suddenly, for the first time in his life, my son had trouble in school as well as at home. I'd sought counseling for him, but the older he got, the more he rebelled.

She is a certified Positive Discipline Educator and a mother, meaning she has experience with this topic. Due to her positive ethos, the article is reliable and a strong argument. Along with McCready’s ethos, she presents her ideas in a clear, logical way. This also strengthens her argument and provides coherence. McCready utilizes proper organization, including visual appeal due to the fact all of her paragraphs look about the same length; this pleases the eye and subconsciously makes the reader flow through the article more smoothly. Another aspect of organization apparent within the article is unity. The paragraphs include unity, along with contributing to the main, unified idea. The information was presented in a logical, well-constructed manner, and it is applicable to a large portion of the population--parents and teachers. Another positive characteristic is her use of a rogerian argument in the beginning. This entices the reader and allows them to start thinking. Despite the article’s flaws, it is a strong argument presented with a sound

Amy McCready, the author of the article, is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, an online training service for parents of toddlers to teens. The article discusses the root cause of bad behavior. She explains that children and adults have a need for belonging and significance, and when we do not receive both of these needs we misbehave. Lastly it explains what parents should be doing to discipline the poor behavioral decisions made by the child and how to prevent it in the future.

A Single Shard and “Orphans’ Lonely Beginnings” have many things in common; as well as, many differences. The same is true for raising children. Although there are many books, articles, information, experts and research on raising a child, there are no set instructions or strict guidance. Each and every parent brings their unique set of ideas and/or thoughts into their own experiences with raising children. In addition, a lot of those experiences whether good or bad are how their own parents raised them.

“One of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation. Somehow, we neglect to praise our son or daughter when he or she brings home a good report card, and we fail to encourage our children when they first succeed in baking a cake or building a birdhouse. Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval (27).”

The therapists I met adhered to the medical model, which in turn resulted in minimizing the importance of culture, personal experience, and knowledge of child rearing. Often times, I felt criticized and inadequate as a parent because I was not following the “North American” model of raising children.

Companies expect their employees to do good work efficiently. When issues arise in within the work environment it prevents productivity and work satisfaction amongst employees. At the organization I am a part of it is considered a helping profession and people either do work in the office or out in the field by providing services. However, when you need to get something done, people do not seem to accomplish tasks at work because of the lack of support or the distractions that occur. There are three main issues that occur in my job surrounding the lack of efficient communication, guidance and expectations from managers, and scheduling conflicts. Through analyzing these issues a specific job may be created to help solve these problems that affect this work environment.

Khazan begins the article by asking the rhetorical question about the necessity of punishing a child, and then proceeds to contradict this by stating that Kazdin a certified psychologist declares this untruthful. Following this, Khazan states that Dr. Kazdin, the director of Yale Parenting Center advocates for the unconventional parenting method of positively reinforcing behaviors that you want, oppose to the use of punishment to try to prevent the ones you do not want. After her transitional introduction, Khazan includes her interview with Alan Kazdin, Ph.D., Director of Yale Parenting Center to give professional credibility and insight to her controversial article. Interviewing someone who has a PhD and also specializes in parenting techniques certainly adds to the trustworthiness of the Doctors methods and insight. On the Yale Parenting Center’s official website, Dr. Kazdin emphasize the success and popularity of their methods by proclaiming that “The work that we do has been featured on NPR, PBS, BBC, CNN, and the Today Show… Good Morning America, ABC News, 20/20, and Dr. Phil to discuss and demonstrate what we do” (Kazdin) in attempts to impress and persuade potential clients, if not

Santrock (2010) gives the advice for parents stating “ recognize that the quality of your parenting is a key factor in your child’s development…..parents should observe for themselves whether their children seen to be having behavior problems”. (p.372)

In today’s world, one of the most damaging thing parents can do is neglecting their child's well-being. Especially when it comes to mental health issues and any other type of medical issue. It's almost along the same lines as the over opinionated “soccer mom” or “hockey dad”, but when forcing your child suffer from not getting the proper medical or psychological support it's a lot more damaging for the child.

Acts of bad parenting range anywhere from ignoring a child to abusing them in any way. Oftentimes, parents fail to give their children the attention they need to feel loved and wanted. Ignoring a child can be something as little as letting them do whatever they want, making the child feel like the parent doesn’t care enough to give them boundaries. In situations like these, the child will often feel ignored or unwanted. According to Beth Greenwood, a registered nurse, children who are ignored are much more likely to act out and obtain poor grades (Greenwood, 2013). In situations like these, the child believes that if they act out, it will get their parent’s attention. The kids believe that the wrong kind of attention is better