29 August 2016 Authoritarian Parenting Picture yourself in a gas station and across from you stands a man and his son. The son is yelling and kicking on the ground. Everyone in the gas station is observing the son’s awful behavior and that the dad’s frustration level is rising. How can the little boy be taught that this type of behavior is not tolerated? Many parents would be compelled to take their kid home and use strict punishment to discipline their behavior.
An individual’s life and success is most dependent on their family environment and how they were raised. Good parenting is essential for a child’s educational and behavioral success and is a stressed trait throughout the world; however, in different cultures, good parenting can be defined and measured in many contrasting ways. In the United States, parenting and discipline methods have become controversial in the past fifty years, and the methods for raising children have drastically changed in some households.
Our home consisted of 7 children (I am the 3rd child), we went to church every Sunday and were taught the importance of church and living good values. These values were taught for the most part in an authoritarian parenting style. Authoritarian parenting “does not encourage verbal give and take, believing that the child should accept her word for what is right” (Baumrind pg. 890). My mother, was for the most part a stay at home mom and was more of an uninvolved parent, “showing little to no affection or encouragement (Maccoby)” As children we did our own thing, but we understood what was expected. For example, every August, the task of replenishing our food storage was in full force (this was my mom’s responsibility), by canning, peaches,
Gwen discussed the effects of authoritarian parenting on its benefits and drawbacks to children development with reference to research findings. This style affect children growth in behavioral, social, emotional, moral aspects and school performance. The behaviors of children are well-developed and advoid severial risky behavior such as drugs, alcohol taking, and anti-social behavior. Also, this style causes the embrrassment in social relationship because they will be less likely accepted by peers and receive less competence or sources. On emotional aspect, kids are easily report negatives including anxiety, depression and lower self esteem. Furthermore, research suggest that authoritarian caregiving associate with lower school performance
Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.
Many children who are not allowed to attend sleep overs or have a playdate are often seeing things the wrong way. Children that must constantly practice their drums or instruments, do homework, and are not allowed to have any type of free time as they please themselves. In this research paper it shows how extreme parenting is solved, what extreme parenting is and if extreme parenting effects relationship between child and parent.
A fixed mindset is when someone believes the abilities you are born with are the ones you will always have, and they cannot be changed. Children who possess a fixed mindset are likely to attribute their success to pure luck and their failures to ability or lack thereof. This is also known as learned helplessness. Children with a growth mindset, however, have a contrasting perspective. They believe abilities can be improved over time with an input of effort. They attribute their success to their abilities and their failures to variables that can be easily altered. As I have mentioned in the past, I fall under the authoritative parenting style. Because an authoritative parenting style is firm but caring and encouraging, I have cultivated a growth
Moving is hard. Growing up in the same place, in the same house, with the same people for you whole life and then having to be torn away to move to a new city is a hard thing for anyone, especially children. Riley Andersen, a twelve-year-old girl from Minnesota, goes through a big move when her father gets a new job. Riley and her family have to move to San Francisco, California, moving away from her community, her friends, hockey team, and everything else she has ever known. Her and her two married parents experience stress, unhappiness, and how Community shapes children. Community is a place for a person that involves a neighborhood and the area that surrounds them. Children develop by creating close bonds with people in their community, through things like school or a sports team. (CITE BOOK) The children also develop based on the quality of the neighborhood surrounding them. If the community is a good, wealthy community, a child will most likely partake in sports and good activities; however, if the community is poor,
Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the
Authoritarian parents have low involvement and high demand on their children. They are extremely harsh and require their children to submit to their commands and surveillance with little or no communication. Children with these type of parents are not given room to discuss with their parents. They are to comply to their parents with unquestionable respect, and great levels of achievement are anticipated at all times. The result of defying the commands is merciless punishment, which can include yelling and hitting.
The parenting style that I believe most influenced my development is the authoritarian parenting style. The book uses a phrase that I can relate to very well, “Because I say so.” I grew up with two loving parents and I would be lying if I said I did not have a good childhood; however, my parents expected my sister and I to do exactly what they told us to do without question. For example, on a saturday my dad would wake up and say “today we are going biking,” and we would go biking and I would hate every minute of it. I would always ask why we had to go or I would tell him that I had already made other plans, but he would just tell me to stop asking questions because we were going regardless. This is just one of so many instances where my parents
Were your parents always nice and lenient to your wants and needs or were they demanding and always had high expectations of you? Most people do not really think about what type of parent they are, it just happens naturally but after explaining two of the four parenting styles, it will certainly open a mom’s minds about which type of style they grew up with and which type of parent they are to their children. I am going to explain the similarities and differences between permissive and authoritative parents, this will help mothers identify which type of parent they are and explain the pros and cons of each parenting style.
A parenting coach can help parents learn to deal with those situations that life has a tendency to throw their way at any time. If a person is struggling with control over their child, there is usually an underlying reason for it. It could be the child is bullied at school or it could be a medical condition causing the conflict.
Parenting is one of the most important, demanding, and rewarding job that one can have; however, when it comes to occupational hazards, I think that parenting by far is the most difficult. There are so many outside influences that will interfere with parenting in comparison to any other job. For instance, the loss of a job, relationship problems, illness, death, poverty, social and economic status, cultural differences are all factors when it comes to parenting. I believe that I set a good example for my children by maintaining my standards and quality of parenting throughout. I have parented consistently through divorce, death, and financial hardship. My children have been through many struggles throughout their lives, but they know
“Many factors motivate children's behavior and the decisions they make, and a "one size fits all" approach to classroom management is neither universally effective nor considered developmentally appropriate” (Jaruszewicz, 2012). Children best learn rules by seeing them practiced by the adults in their lives. Today I believe people spend more time preaching instead of practicing themselves. One of the more difficult behaviors I face at home with my own children is hitting and biting each other. In my home, I, do not discipline my kids by hitting them to show them that hitting someone is never acceptable. Since there are different parental approaches to this matter I demonstrate with my children when they hit each other that hitting isn’t nice and when other kids hit them at the school they should respond with hitting isn’t nice. When hitting is being done in the at or at home the children tend to solve the matter by themselves by responding with hitting isn’t nice. Therefore, parents have a duty to not only teach their children the correct way to behave but also model the correct behavior as
In the early 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrid conducted a research, analyzing child-parent behavior, seeking to identify parenting styles. The Baumrid study and other further studies identified four main styles of parenting (Miller, 2010): the authoritative parenting style was characterized by fair rules and consequences; The Authoritarian parenting style was characterized by strict rules and harsh punishment; the permissive parenting style was characterized by minimal rules with little or no consequences; the uninvolved parenting style was characterized by no rules, and parent presence was almost non-existent. In this paper, I’m going to look at the authoritarian style of parenting in an attempt to draw out its characteristics and its immediate and later impacts on children impact.