Authoritarian parenting style is among the strictest of parenting methods.
“This approach is embodied by a disconnection between a parent and child relationship. It is a relationship of power exercised by the parent over the child, with little mutual understanding or discussion”(Hughes, 2013). Essentially, this style can be effective in methods of getting a child to listen and always working to their full potential. Although these are strong aspects to have in a child there are negative motives in authoritarian parenting. This style of disciple can affect a child’s cognitive and social development. As a result of this, children tend to feel overwhelmed and become unhappy because of the amount of pressure put on them. In authoritarian parenting,
Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.
Bob Keeshan once said “Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than the parent.” In a child’s life, parents are irreplaceable. The method that parents use to raise children would affect their personalities, attitudes, behaviors and actions strongly. Every parent picks their own way, some choose authoritarian parenting, some choose permissive parenting. Authoritarian parenting is the method of strict parents, who have high expectations on their kids, making them work hard, participate in extracurricular activities and punish harshly. In contrast, permissive parenting refers to open-minded parents, do not have a lot of rules or discipline, always motivative and listen to their children. Authoritarian parenting has its own weaknesses and strengths. It is good for education and children will grow stronger due to their parents’ expectations, but it may also damages a child’s mental health and limited their time to learn a variety of skills.
Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).
Parenting style is one of many factors that strongly influence the child's development and their behaviors. Researchers have demonstrated many times that the environment in which children are raised has significant effects on a child’s intellectual, physical, social, and emotional development. For decades, researchers have also been interested in how parents influence their children's development, and one approach in this area is the study of what has been termed as parenting style. In 1971, clinical and developmental psychologist, Diana Baumrind came up with three main categories of parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative and democratic. Parents can be a mixture of three styles or fall into one or more categories.
Tyler who’s now 5 was told to pick up his toys before dinner, he has not done so and is throwing a tantrum because he said it too much work.
The authoritarian parenting style is when parents have the highest level of control and supervision on their children and offer little support for them. With no support at home this could lead to feelings of sadness and loneliness causing students to cope negatively. Teenagers could rebel against their parents for being too controlling. They could also be too scared of their parents to rebel because they are so controlling. The authoritarian parenting style could lead teenagers to go down both
While a child is in its early age (3-5), their emotional and social development can be influenced very easily by many ways. The most common method is simply how their parents choose the type of parenting style they want the child to get accustomed to. In this paper, it will identify the studies of how Baurmind’s four parenting styles of authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved have some contrasts and similar effects on the child’s emotional and social development. The different parenting affects will bring out if it is a positive or negative result for the child’s development. This research will also examine my own experiences of being raised in an authoritarian household and how it has molded me into the person I am today (Dewar,
Authoritarian parenting style has an impact – either positive or negative – on children’s social and emotional development. Authoritarian parents generally raise children who are obedient and proficient because they are trained to be one when they were little. Moreover, Marsiglia et al (2007) states that “Children and adolescents from authoritarian families tend to perform moderately well in school and to be less involved in problem behaviors than children and adolescents from permissive families”. They are able to control aggressive impulses and not coercive toward parents (Patterson, 1976, as cited in Singh, 2007)
Jessica M. Berge and her co-researchers performed a cohort study in order to collect their research. In recent years, there have been many studies that can relate various parenting styles to the topics of adolescent overweight and weight behaviors. These studies are helpful, but they are only cross-sectional studies, which are incapable of determining whether or not parenting styles are predictors of an adolescent weight and weight behavior. Berge and her co-researchers researched adolescents during a five-year-long period of time in order to examine the correct association or possible causation between parenting styles and adolescent weight and diet behaviors. The population used to perform this study included 2,516 adolescents from the ages 16-21. Adolescents that were observed in this study came from 31 different Minnesota schools with
The strong, opinionated, ‘my-way’ aspect of the authoritarian parenting style has been passed down to the family members, where it is a fight for who is right. In contrast, some members of the family are lazier, will not do daily tasks for themselves, and do not pick up the slack. The Olson textbook (2014) discusses Eric Erickson’s stages of aging and one stage is where an able-bodied person does not wish to be mobile and uses age as an excuse. Since her forties, my Grandmother has not cooked and was not disciplining her children. This passive parenting provides an example of disorderliness and laziness, which Sister and Youngest Brother have exhibited, and yields neglected chores and an untidy home. Typically, Sister is left alone in her room to play on her computer and draw while Youngest Brother is consumed in his devices. Neither will help on their own with chores or cooking so Mom and I are making up for their uncooperativeness. As indicated on my genogram, the stars of the family are typically the oldest daughter, who runs the household, cares for the siblings, and nurses their elderly parents. These three members of the family all exhibit this lazy lifestyle and passive aggressiveness in their communication methods. Thus, strict discipline and unchanging rules are established to help balance the lack of responsibility and more
My dad was once a very permissive parent: did not care much for discipline, but was huge on making sure that we knew that he loved us and was and would always be there for us no matter what. But all of that changed when my parents became divorced when I was nine years old. He became very withdrawn and heartbroken about the divorce, and when he married my stepmother, he seemed determined to not mess up this marriage, which in this case turned him to an authoritarian parenting style. The relationship between my father and I changed after he remarried, we used to be close, doing a lot of father and daughter activities and just spending quality time together when he was home. After the remarriage, he became stricter and condescending and it was difficult to adjust to, and our relationship was never the same. There were times where we would try and make things up to each other by doing activities together, but most instances they ended in arguments and bitter endings, which distanced us even further.
The authoritarian parenting style is based on control. With this style of parenting the parent retains complete control at all times. Under this style of
There are four parenting styles that affects a child’s development, which are: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and uninvolved. Out of these four categories, my parents were classified under the authoritarian style of parenting. Although my parents showed their affection and their support, one of the biggest factors that made them authoritative was the inability to communicate or express any of their thoughts, feelings, or needs. Their dual employment was an issue because there was little involvement during my childhood of being the middle child. However, because they were often under financial stress, there were more criticisms, demands, and punishments for my unwanted behavior without any explanations. They never took the opportunity to explain these type of experiences to help me grow and mature, thus exhibiting the “do it because I said so” attitude. Incoming freshmen year, when I started to explore my surroundings more by driving to distant places and hanging out with different people, their parenting style became more problematic than it ever did. It heightened my behavior to be even more rebellious, defiant, and angry at how they tried to resolve the
A common characteristic of authoritarian parenting style includes the way parents tend to impose their own point of view. Dekovic and Janssens (1992) explain than an authoritarian parent establishes rules for their children and the children must obey without any complaint. These parents limit their children to freely express their feelings because they are most concerned with imposing their own point of view, they just take care to enforce their own point of view. Pikas (1961) explained that young adolescents begin the fight for their independence and they tend to need fewer rules, norms, and restrictions imposed by their parents. Young adolescent tend to be aggressive to achieve their personal freedom. Rudy and Grusec (2006) discuss authoritarian
Authoritarian parenting has been one of the main parenting styles to receive criticism, however, it is still a widely used style across all nations. Authoritarian parenting is characterized by setting high expectations for children, not providing much warmth, being unwilling to compromise on rules, not explaining why rules are set, and overall not willing to show children the support that they need, even when they are at a young and sensitive age. In fact, researchers Satarj and Aslam describe authoritarian parents as, “Parents who apply this style tend to limit children’s independence and force them to follow strict rules by threatening harsh punishment for violations. They also tend to be less responsive to and accepting of their